How To Really Believe In Your Goals

Self motivation is the ability to do what needs to get done without other people having to influence you; it’s literally psyching yourself up. But telling yourself “I can do this!” or “Let’s do this!” is less effective than visualizing yourself doing it. When you practice visualization, you’re working out your brain as you would any other muscle in your body. Visualization helps to increase your focus and confidence, controlling your reactions and helps to make doing XYZ automatic. All of this leads to believing you can achieve whatever it is you set out to do. So then BELIEF is the key, not self motivation.

How many times have you heard the phrase “Ask, Believe, Receive”? Maybe you heard it in a biblical reference or in the law of attraction method. Either way, it’s a popular phrase, but I always found the “believing” part to be the most difficult. Sure, asking for millions of dollars, the nice house, fast car, or yacht is super easy and even seeing it was easy; but how can I believe that it’s already mine, if I can’t see it in my reality yet? So I decided to dig a little deeper to find out how I could start believing.

What Is a Belief Anyway?

According to Wiki- “Belief is the state of mind in which a person thinks something to be the case with or without there being empirical evidence to prove that something is the case with factual certainty.”

To put it simply, it’s whatever I think to be true or real.

It’s said that from the time you’re born up until about 7 years old is the most crucial time because we are absorbing everything in our lives. Everything your parents said and did, your teachers, classmates, what you watched and listened to as a child all had a significant impact on what you believed to be true later on in life. As most, you were probably told “No!” or “Don’t touch that!” or “Don’t eat that!” (I tried to eat glue as a kid, so I heard this!)  many times in your life. With all the negativity growing up, it’s no wonder so many us have an extremely difficult time achieving success!

Our beliefs have been formed through the things we’ve learned and it’s the basis of our thoughts. Sure, being told to not eat glue (as in my case) was the teacher looking out for my well-being. But what about the times someone laughed at you because you told them you were going to be a famous singer or be featured in the next broad-way show? How about the times when you said you wanted to be your own boss? If you ever had a dream and someone put you down, it chipped away the belief in yourself and affected your belief system more than you know.

Beliefs can be really strong, but remember that it distorts what and how we see the world around us. The great thing about it, is that we can also UN-learn any beliefs that are not for our benefit.

UN-Learn Beliefs That Aren't Beneficial

Since repetition helps to form beliefs, this is most likely why everyone tells you to do affirmations. By telling yourself over and over that you are rich, you are successful and you have that new house, you’re essentially drowning out any negative thoughts. With time, you may be successful at replacing the negative with positive thoughts. But you may be like me, and have that little voice saying “You’re not successful, you’re not rich, and where the hell is that new house you keep saying you have?!” If you do, then I suggest you take out the trash!

What do I mean by “taking out the trash“? First write down your goal, then start thinking about all the negative beliefs you have about your goal and write it down. Once you do this, you may realize that you have some mental blocks that are stopping you from reaching your goals.

I just recently did this for a goal of buying a property. On the surface, its like “Of course I want a property!” but once I started writing down my negative beliefs about it, I realized I have a lot of work to do on my mindset still. Here is a short list of what my trash looked like:

• Buying the property I want may be the wrong decision
• What if I can’t pay all the bills
• What if I go into such bad debt that I end up losing the place
• The tenants may not be good ones

Keep writing the list until you think you have gotten into the root cause. For me and my list there seems to be a fear of debt. My belief about debt is a bad one and probably came from my childhood. Hearing that debt is bad and how you want to avoid it and make sure you always have your bills paid probably instilled this belief.

Next is turning your beliefs into the positive. Once you do that the best way to reinforce it is write WHY it’s true. So for my list it looks something like this:

• Buying the property I want is the right decision because I am drawn to that particular one, plus it has everything I want
• I can pay all the bills because I have job that pays enough, I get bonuses, I’m great at saving money, I earn extra money from doing odd jobs-like uber/lyft, affiliate links, and have some extra money if need be in cyrpto/stocks.
• I can not get into such bad debt because of the list above, plus I always pay my bills on time because I’m great at managing my money and can live mediocre if need be until everything is caught up. Plus I pay more if I can, reducing the next month’s payment.
• The tenants will be great ones because I will have them screened before applying to live in the property. I can always go on a month to month lease with them to see if it will work out, if not I can find new ones with a property manager.

Do you see how you can flip your negatives into positives and then create new beliefs by not only mentioning the positive but WHY?

Literally all you have to do is:

1. Recognize it
2. Deconstruct it
3. Rebuild it

Turn Your Senses Into Success

I recently discover that if you want success, you must take into account all of your surrounds-using all five senses.

Visual is everything you can see and that includes your peripheral vision as well. Let’s talk about that vision board you have, where is it? Is it in a room with more positive reinforcements or do you have some unpaid bills laying on the desk next to the vision board? How clean is your car on the inside; is there a bunch of crap all over the place? What about how you dress- are you dressing your best or just always wearing whatever? Our visual surroundings influence us more than we know so be conscious of what is around you.

Sound is the second sense that influences your mood. Do you listen to music that inspires or depresses you? Are you constantly watching the news with nothing but negative vibes? What about your friends, how are they talking to you? If they are only discussing gossip and their problems, maybe you want to find friends who are talking about achievements, solutions, goals and dreams for the future.

The third sense is touch. If success for you is losing weight then imagine how you’ll feel once those pounds are gone, or how that dress will feel as you slip into a size 5. Want a new car? How do those leather seats feel as it hugs your body or how does that heated steering wheel feel? What about your new house? Feel that brand new carpet under your feet or the hard wood polished floors. Imagine how your marble kitchen counter top feels! There is no limit so go for it!

Taste is number four. Maybe you are able to go eat an awesome quality meal from time to time. Imagine eating like that all the time. How does that $150 Wagyu Kobe steak taste? What about the finest Turkish coffee you can get? Whatever success tastes like to you, eat it whenever you can, or imagine it if you don’t have access to it yet.

Lastly is smell. Although this is the weakest of our senses, we can still detect about 10,000 different odors. Just as the with the other senses, think for a moment of how success smells to you. Do you have a perfume or cologne that makes you think of success when you wear it? I know I have one- for me it’s Victoria Secrets “Eau So Sexy” Whenever I wear this, I always feel my best which boosts my confidence. What about freshly laundered sheets or clothes? Or maybe you like the smell of a new car. Whatever you identify with success, imagine it as your reality, or if you can smell it daily (like perfume) then use it often, don’t just wait to wear it for special occasions!

Final Thoughts

Remember:

• Believing is key to achieving success, and your beliefs start forming from childhood. How you see the world through your eyes is what you’ve learned through your life.
• You can change any belief you want by recognizing it, deconstructing it, and rebuilding it.
• All five senses have an impact on you and you can use them to create success.

I have learned this by reading a book called “Master Your Brain Training Your Mind For Success In Life” by Phillip Adcock and I don’t know why I have never heard this book mentioned before in the entrepreneurial world.

This book is absolutely amazing in explaining how and what we think in simple plain English. With 52 chapters and about 250 pages of pure knowledge and exercises that I can implement in life now, this has become my success bible! I love this book and couldn’t recommend it enough!! If you are interested in learning more about how and why you think they way you do, or how you can change your life for success I’d recommend reading this book; just click the image to purchase for less than $10, it’s an investment you won’t be sorry you bought!!

To Your Success,

-B. Marie 😀